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Strange right ? On hearing this question, an instant internal response may be, Me ask him ? He's the one who I think can do so much better. He should be the one asking the question, which is typically what happens every where.
But let me tell you this - The boss that can ask this question is the one who has the potential of being a Leader as opposed to just a superior in a hierarchy. The attributes of Leadership that this one simple question displays is humility, openness and a genuine concern for the growth and well being of your employees. Companies are spending a lot of money to train their people on the most conducive behaviours to increase employee engagement and increase productivity. Creating an environment of trust and real concern for your employees by asking this question and encouraging and allowing honest answers is a sure shot way of increasing employee engagement. By displaying this openness you create a collaborative environment thus unleashing channels for innovation within your team and in the organization. You display the qualities of being an Inclusive leader. In fact why not practise at home by asking this question to your parents "How can I be a better son/daughter ?" , your spouse "How can I be a better husband or wife ?" or your child "How can I be a better parent to you ?". It is hard, but once you can bring yourself to ask this, you are yourself on the path to self improvement and self awareness. It will only enhance you as an individual, which benefiting your employees and your organization.
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Here is a list of top 10 Books and Blogs that I think are very good reads on attempting to understand Spirituality :
What is meditation ?
It is one of those questions that is often difficult to put the answer in words. What is the point in just sitting there laying still ? What mediation does is takes you in the mode of "Being" from "Doing". After all we are Human Beings not Human Doings. The pace of life in today's time leaves very room for us to be in a "Being" state of mind. There are several advantages in the "Being" state of mind that the "Doing" ( intellect or thinking mind) cannot understand. Think of the human body like a solar powered device ( for e.g. a solar powered water heater). Such a device needs to be exposed in the sunlight without disturbance until it accumulates energy in the right spots. After which, it can be used for the purpose it is created for. In the same way the human body runs on energy centers in the body called "Chakras". During meditation, these chakras are given the space to orient and reorient themselves in the best ways to serve your physical body. This adjustment is needed for the various parts of the mind and body to function in sync. The human intellect is so powerful that it has made such radical advances in technologies. However the one technology that we have not been able to build is the ability to create emotions. Why do you think this is so ? It only proves that there will always be creative powers beyond the understanding of the human intellect. It is important to recognize and know that we don't know. Once we can accept that it allows you to BE without feeling the necessity to make sense of it all. So just like how a beautiful rose knows how to bloom on its own as long as it gets sunlight, soil and water allow meditation to replenish the energies needed for YOU to function, trusting the intelligence that created you in the first place. Do reach out to me at bhavnadalal@gmail.com to learn more on the how to and the benefits of meditation. Our Inner Critic is that inner voice in our head which is a part of us that criticizes us and speaks about us in a disparaging way. As a leader, this voice prevents us from taking risks, innovating, delegating and more. The thing is most of us are not even aware that it is a voice or a self speaking inside of us because we have gotten used to its constant judgements since early childhood.This running critical commentary in the background feels like a natural part of who we are. It is formed early in our lives, soaking in the judgements of the people around us and the expectations of society. It was developed early on for our survival, to protect us. Because it is so old we don't even realize that it is there.When people do realize it they say, "You know what, I just thought this was me". Please note, this voice is not you and it does not have to run your life. In fact it has the ability to stop your personal growth and block your creativity.How does it do that ? It makes you feel bad, humiliates you and shames you about sometimes doing things that give you real joy. In trying to prevent problems this inner critic itself becomes a bigger problem. Once it has reached very high levels of dominance, it is not uncommon for people to be required to eat, smoke, drink, or use drugs, or exercise in a compulsive way in order to cover up the bad feelings. Your inner critic does mean well for you, but it does not know when to stop. Here is what it may sound like : "I should not have done that" "I am not doing enough" "I wish I was this" "I'm fat, I'm too skinny, I am lazy, I am not tall enough" "I shouldn't have said that" "I need to work extra hard else I'll never make it because I am not smart enough" Underneath these "shoulds" and "should nots" is the basic assumption that we erred, that we made a mistake, we were not good enough. The way to get rid of this over bearing inner critic is to start becoming aware of it, notice it and pay attention to it. Sometimes realizing and understanding its source is also helpful. Coaching helps you recognize your inner critic and enables you to tackle it positively. |
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